Shylalight 4 your happiness

Ive always felt that I am unable to join in most conversations because I am an optimist and dont like grumbling all day long and yet when I set myself this challenge I realised how much I still do it myself. Not as much as most people around me for sure but still an awful lot more than I would have thought. I decided that if all I was doing was moaning to someone who couldnt do anything about the topic at hand then I wouldnt say anything at all. Its amazing how much goes on. I knew society had lost its balance, if it ever had it in first place but I didnt realise just how far it was weighed to one end. Im glad I created this website now more than ever as the challenge seems to be critical to most people finding some semblance of normality and happiness instead of daily grind and negativity.

I found that I felt better for not encouraging more discourse but equally frustrated because now I didnt know what to do with this energy in me. I have always found emotions very easy to read and kind of 'cling' to me although expressed by others and now I have my own unexpressed issues and the feeling that I cant talk to anyone around me because they are all moaning for the most part.

I found a lovely message today I had forgotten about if I can share it here.

"You are a fortunate soul who recognizes that a mind filled with peace creates a heart filled with contentment."

Inner peace starts with each one of us and then has a knock on effect with others. We can listen to others complaining and grumbling without fuelling it by joining in. I often find just to listen and then, when the moment feels right, I change the subject to something more positive. I almost find it like a game after a while........and it generally works. I like to make people laugh so if I can drop in something that has made me smile recently that lifts the conversation. You don't have to take on others negative energy .........when you put out light energy that is what you get back, like smiling at people they generally will smile back.

We actually don't need to tell people we don't want to hear them grumbling, I have found it is more a leading by example (sounds pompous but its not meant to be) when they don't get the fuel of you agreeing with their moans the grumbling can lose its momentum, because we aren't playing the game any more. Sorry that this quick reply got a bit long winded but hope it makes sense.

Well it is definately working, talk and behave positively and others react positively!  I was at work today and said that I was really happy yesterday when I took my daughter to see Cinderalla and the response was 'oh do you know what made me really happy yesterday, the way my grand daughter smiled at me when she saw me, like she was so pleased I was there'.  That was so nice to hear but mainly the fact that between me and this person talking someone lese then joined in what made them happy this weekend.  It was refreshing to say the least x

I have a notebook (rather a nice one - I'm worth it!) by the bed, and I make myself (and sometimes it's a big effort) write three positive things in about the day just ending.  They don't have to be big things, but it makes sure that I go to sleep in a POSITIVE frame of mind.